Dhanteras also known as the festival of...
Our Mentor asks, “How is our relationship with our friends, relatives or cousins that is people of the same age group?
Do we feel…
- I can’t keep friends for too long!
- My friends do not understand me!
- I do not know how to make friends!
Do we experience strained relationships or friendships? What is the basic cause behind the strain?
The reason is that we try to change the other person and mould them according to our wishes/likes be it our friend, relative or cousin. But, is it possible to change the other person? No. We try to advice the other person, which he does not like. He feels that his freedom is at stake. Nobody in this world would like to be under someone and therefore, he slowly moves away from our life. We should learn to accept people as they are.
Why is it that some people have the quality to make good relationships and have lots of friends? The basic reason that lies behind is that when we love and accept ourselves, then only we can accept others as they are.
We can say an Affirmation: “I love and accept myself”.
Such a person becomes an ocean of love. He is charismatic, fulfilled and always smiling. All people get attracted towards him. His relationship with everyone is healthy, long living and congenial.
The relationship we have with ourselves is the key to all relationships.